Mar 04

How To Tell Your Kids You’re Going to Rehab

How To Tell Your Kids You're Going to Rehab

How To Tell Your Kids You’re Going to Rehab

Making the decision to go to rehab is the first crucial step in beating an addiction. Once you make the decision, however, there are some other things you must take care of before you leave. What to tell your kids depends in large part about how old they are. If they are in their late teens or twenties, you may be able to tell them in the same way that you tell the rest of your family. If they are older, they are probably well aware of the problem, and will be relieved to know you are going to get help. Make sure to find out when they can visit or call, and make sure they know you will keep in touch as much as you can.

If your child is a little younger, however, they may have more trouble understanding. Here are some tips that can help you tell your kids you’re going to rehab:

How To Tell Your Kids You’re Going to Rehab:  Explain that addiction is a disease

Sit down with your kids and explain that addiction is a disease, and that you need help to get better. Tell them you are going to a special place where good people will help you get better. This way, they will understand that you need to go, but that you will be getting better while you are gone. This will make it easier on them when you tell your kids you’re going to rehab.

How To Tell Your Kids You’re Going to Rehab: Talk about the rehab

Kids usually feel better when they know what’s going on. When you tell your kids you’re going to rehab, show them pictures of the place that you are going. Talk about what you will do during a day in treatment. Talk about the time you’ll get up, when you’ll eat, the therapies you’ll be involved in. Make sure they understand that you won’t be able to talk to on the phone or visit them very often, especially in the beginning.

How To Tell Your Kids You’re Going to Rehab: Make a plan

While you are gone, you may not have control over when you will be allowed to contact your children. Make sure that they know you will call every chance you get. If you can, find out from the treatment center when you will have access to the phone, when you will be able to send letters, and when family will be allowed to visit. Let your kids know when you will be able to contact them, maybe mark it on the calendar. Plan ahead for visiting day, and decide together what you will do when they come. This will make it easier when you tell your kids you’re going to rehab.

How To Tell Your Kids You’re Going to Rehab: Manage your emotions

It is difficult to tell your kids you’re going to rehab, but it will be better for them if you can manage your emotions when you talk to them about it. Crying or becoming extremely upset may make it harder on them. As much as you can, try to remain calm and optimistic when you tell your kids you’re going to rehab.

Feb 22

Depression: Men vs. Women

Depression: Men vs. Women

Depression: Men vs. Women      

Depression is a mental disorder that causes feelings of extreme sadness, worthlessness, or even suicidal thoughts in those that suffer from it.  It affects both men and women, but women are twice as likely to suffer from depression as men. About one in five women develop depression at some point. It can occur at any age, but it’s most common in women between the ages of 40 and 59.

Depression: Men vs. Women: Symptoms

Men and women usually present the same set of depression symptoms. These can include depressed mood, lack of motivation, loss of pleasure, changes in appetite, sleep disturbances, feelings of guilt and difficulty concentrating. Women, however, more often show visible signs of emotion, such as crying, while men tend to show less emotion. Irritability and anger are more prevalent in men.

These symptom differences may occur because of the traditional gender roles of men and women. Women are able to communicate their feelings more easily and ask for help. Men are expected to be strong. They are conditioned not to express their feelings, so their emotions may be suppressed and then bubble to the surface in other forms, like anger.

Women are also more likely to exhibit atypical symptoms of depression. These can include sleeping excessively and overeating, instead of typical symptoms like insomnia and loss of appetite.

Depression: Men vs. Women: Prevalence

Women experience major depression about twice as likely as men. There are several factors that could account for the difference. The peak of depression symptom onset for women coincides with their reproductive years (25-44 years old), so hormone changes could play a role. In addition, differences in socialization could play a role. Studies show that women have a more emotion-focused coping style which could lead to longer and severe episodes in depression. Finally, women may experience more stressful life events and have a greater sensitivity towards them than men.

Some researchers have actually suggested that there may be no difference in prevalence of depression between women and men. They have proposed the idea that it may just be that more women seek help for depression than men, leading to them being diagnosed more often. However, other studies do seem to indicate that women are in fact more susceptible.

Depression: Men vs. Women: Suicide

Men and women also have different methods of suicide. Men tend to choose more violent methods of suicide, so their suicide attempts succeed more often. These methods include hanging, vehicle exhaust gas, asphyxiation, and use of firearms. Women are more likely to choose self-poisoning.

Men actually die from suicide more often which is due at least in part to the lethality of the chosen method. However, women are more likely to engage in deliberate self-harm. Deliberate self-harm includes any type of self-harming behavior, whether or not the intent is suicidal. Differences in gender roles may account for these differences in suicide behavior. Men are more inclined to reject the idea of failure, which may cause them to choose a more lethal and violent method of suicide.

Source: http://depression.about.com/od/genders/a/gender.htm

Dec 07

Resources for Victims of Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence is a Daily Tragedy: Resources for Victims of Domestic Violence

Domestic violence should not happen to anyone, ever. But it does. It happens to thousands of Americans every day. Unfortunately, in times of economic crisis, the number of incidents of domestic violence increases. When stresses in the home increase because of unemployment and other hardships, there are more cases of domestic violence. Unfortunately, domestic violence isn’t one of the causes that get a lot of funding. There is often a lot of denial and victim blaming involved when it comes to domestic violence.

Resources for Victims of Domestic Violence: Getting out of an abusive relationship

“Why doesn’t she just leave?” That’s the question asked by friends and family members of victims of domestic violence. If you are a victim, however, you know that it is not that simple. Perhaps it is fear that is keeping you close. You do not know what your abuser will do if you leave. Maybe you are worried about financial insecurity or the safety of your children. Whatever the case, ending a relationship is not easy. And victims of domestic violence are often isolated from their friends and family members. You may not feel like there is anywhere to turn for help.

You may blame yourself.  You may be confused. One moment, you are sure you want to leave, and the next moment, you are clinging to the hope that he will change. Don’t be trapped by confusion, blame, or self-doubt. You have to protect your safety. Remember that you are not to blame. You are not weak because you have stuck around. You deserve to be treated with respect. You and your children deserve a safe and happy home, where you don’t have to live in fear. Most importantly, you are not alone.

Resources for Victims of Domestic Violence: There is help

Maybe you have been abused. Maybe it happened just once. Maybe you work next to someone who is the victim of domestic violence. Whatever the case, there is help out there. Here are some resources for victims of domestic violence.

Resources for Victims of Domestic Violence: National Hotlines

National hotlines can direct you to resources in your area. Every state has a system in place to provide resources for victims of domestic violence.

National Domestic Violence Hotline

The hotline is staffed 24 hours a day by trained counselors who can provide crisis assistance and information about shelters, legal advocacy, health care centers, and counseling.

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

1-800-787-3224 (TDD)

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network

The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) is the nation’s largest anti-sexual assault organization.  Among its programs, RAINN created and operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1.800.656.HOPE and the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline at rainn.org . This nationwide partnership of more than 1,100 local rape crisis centers provides victims of sexual assault with free, confidential services, 24 hours per day, 7 days per week.  These hotlines have helped over 1.3 million people since RAINN’s founding in 1994.

1-800-656-HOPE

 

Nov 30

Sexual Abuse in U.S Detention Facilities

Sex Abuse in Detention Units

Sexual Abuse in U.S Detention Facilities

Sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities has been a problem and will remain a problem because of the general conception that either prisoner rape is irrelevant because it is behind bars and not out in the normal public eye. Sexual abuse will also remain a problem because of the public’s misguided notions that sexual abuse deters crime, that only the especially violent get sexually abuse, and even worse that the rape of prisoners is funny. This is not the truth of sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities.

The truth is that sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities does not prevent crime nor has any link from prisoner rape to lower crime rates been found. Sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities is a serious crime that rarely is prosecuted. Studies show that sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities actually increases violence in prison. It doesn’t serve as a safeguard against more crime it actually encourages more of it. This is because sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities goes overlooked not only by the public but also by the facilities.

Sexual abuse victims in U.S detention facilities are more often non-violent individuals. They are the vulnerable ones. Of course any prisoner can become a victim of sexual abuse but they are usually the marginalized, special needs populations that are targeted. For instance, in women’s U.S detention facilities the typical survivors of sexual abuse are non-violent, young, mentally ill prisoners. In men’s U.S detention facilities it is usually the young, gay prisoners housed with the adults that become victims.  Not only that, but the non-violent victims usually are sexually abuse time and time again. For instance, a recent study found that nearly 75% of all male and 57% of all female prisoners were sexually abused more than once.

Sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities is probably so disturbing because the public believes those in prison deserve whatever comes to them, including rape, molestation, etc. No one deserves to be sexually abuse in U.S detention facilities or elsewhere. Sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities in some instances can violate an individual’s constitutional right to be free from cruel and unusual punishment. Sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities should never be overlooked but treated as harshly as it would be in the community outside of the facility.

Another issue with sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities is the quickness and rapid spread of disease due to it. Sexual abuse victims in U.S detention facilities are vulnerable to sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV, chlamydia, herpes, and even hepatitis C which is not sexually transmitted but is a blood borne disease which can easily spread with men abusing men. The statistics show just how high the numbers are of those who end up with HIV after being sexually abused in U.S detention facilities. The HIV prevalence rate in 2004, was 4 times higher than in society overall. Hepatitis C rates are 8 to 20 times higher in prisons than on the outside. And 12 to 35 percent of Hepatitis C cases are chronic or unable to be treated. The rates of infection for chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis are much higher too. Victims of sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities are subject to severe mental problems after the abuse. For instance they have to deal with PTSD or post-traumatic stress disorder and rape trauma syndrome.

Sexual abuse in U.S detention facilities is a matter which is just as serious as sexual abuse throughout the entire country and world. Sexual abuse is always crime and regardless where it happens can have significant impact on the population and individual as a whole.

Nov 09

Mental disorders: Men vs. Women

Mental disorders: Men vs. Women

Mental disorders affect both men and women but what, if any difference may gender play in what mental disorders they may have and how it affects them and why? This is all about mental disorders: men vs. women.

The gender of a person is definitely associated with certain mental disorders including depression, anxiety, and somatic problems. For instance, in the case of the mental disorder, depression-men vs. women- it is twice as common in women. In the case of alcohol dependence-men vs. women-it is more than twice as high in men. Antisocial personality disorder-men vs. women-well men are three times more likely to be diagnosed with that too. There are no gender differences when it comes to mental disorders such as schizophrenia and bipolar though.

Sigmund Freud was one of the first people to develop a theory on why men and women develop differences when it comes to mental disorder. Freud thought that women were more prone to neurosis and depression because they are more likely to take their aggression out on themselves rather than other people. This lead Freud to believe that social factors and developmental issues played a big role in the development of a mental disorder which would explain the differences between men and women.

Other things that contribute to the split between men and women when it comes to mental disorders are the pressure on men to not show their emotions and the fact that women usually have lower self-esteem than men. Not only that but that women usually feel less of a sense of control too.

Sigmund Freud wasn’t the only one who spoke on the topic of mental disorders: Men vs. Women, object relations therapy also had something to add to the conversation. Object relations therapy developed an idea that because women are mostly responsible for parenting and mothers push this importance of relationships on their daughters. Whereas a mother with her son, will push him towards independence in comparison to her daughter.

Sarah Rosenfield used the object relations therapy to argue that men and women also develop different kinds of symptoms when they have mental disorders. Men have more external symptoms to their mental disorders and express their emotional problems in outward focused behavior. Women tend to develop internalized symptoms to their mental disorder, where their emotional problems are directed towards themselves. This could explain why women are more prone to anxiety, depression, phobias, and borderline personality disorder and why men experience substance abuse, anti-social disorders and violence.

When looking at the overall topic of mental disorders: men vs. women, you have to look at both the biological, social, and cultural factors of it. This is what is needed to find reason behind the answer of the differences. Differing gender roles, different brain structure, and sex differences can lead to different mental disorders depending on whether or not you are a man or woman.

Women’s mental health: The Facts

  • Depressive disorders account for close to 41.9% of the disability from neuropsychiatric disorders among women compared to 29.3% among men.
  • Leading mental health problems of the elderly are depression, organic brain syndromes and dementias. A majority are women.
  • An estimated 80% of 50 million people affected by violent conflicts, civil wars, disasters, and displacement are women and children.
  • Lifetime prevalence rate of violence against women ranges from 16% to 50%.
  • At least one in five women suffer rape or attempted rape in their lifetime.

http://www.who.int/mental_health/prevention/genderwomen/en/

 

Nov 02

How to tell your husband you’re going to rehab

How to tell your husband youre going to rehab

How to tell your husband you’re going to rehab

The truth of the matter is that if you have been in living with your husband and/or seeing him in any sort of regular basis during your addiction, he more than likely already knows you have a problem with addiction and need rehab. As addicts, we often think we are hiding our drug use and drinking from the people we care about the most but in reality, it’s actually quite obvious. Addiction is a disease that can only be hidden for so long, and then the signs become absolutely impossible to cover up. Anyone who knew you before addiction took control of your life already knows that something is terribly wrong, especially your husband.

When you begin to come up with what you want to say to your husband about going to rehab, it’s probably best to assume that your husband already knows you are struggling with a drug or alcohol addiction. When you stop to think about it, it is likely he has even attempted to talk to you about your addiction in the past. Don’t insult his intelligence by denying how long you have been trying to cover your tracks. Be honest with him, and he will be more receptive to the conversation.

The most important part of telling your husband you’re going to rehab will be the part where you tell him what you are going to do to help yourself. You are going to want to tell him how sorry you are for any hurt you caused him and you can do, but you should also have some information to share with him about getting into a drug alcohol rehab.

You need to explain to him that you are ready and willing to acknowledge your addiction and that you are going to go to rehab. More importantly, you need to share with your husband that you are ready to get better and go to rehab. You may not have all the answers to give your husband about going to rehab about where or when you will enter into drug rehab center or maybe you will. But all you need to convey is that you are ready to do what needs to be done in order to get your life back and your relationship with him back. This is how you will tell your husband you’re going to rehab.

Your husband may be upset with some of the things you have done during your struggle with addiction, but he will always love you so the fact that you are getting help and going to rehab is probably going to be of comfort to him. The conversation you have with your husband about going to rehab and to admit you are an addict may be a difficult discussion, but it is one that you have to face and you will be glad you did.

Once your husband sees you are being honest and humble, he will most likely be more than willing to help you through going to rehab and provide you with a great support system during your drug alcohol rehab. Once you have this conversation with your husband about going to rehab, you will be surprised at his reaction and how much more prepared you are to finally change your life for the better.

 

Sep 07

Drug Rehabs for Mom

Drug Rehab for Moms
Women with children often face a unique set of challenges when they enter drug rehab. They are sometimes the primary care-takers of the children and are unable to leave for a month or longer drug rehab program. Even if they can find someone to take care of the children when they leave, moms also have specific issues that must be addressed in treatment before they can recover.
Most treatment centers are so male-dominated that women’s issues are often overlooked or discounted. Women’s issues include things like child-care, sexual trauma, and being victims of abuse. Drug rehab for moms addresses these topics specifically. Programs that address these gender-issues specifically show the highest rate of success among women with children.
Housing and Family Programs
Some drug rehabs for moms provide family housing so that women can bring their children to treatment. This gives women who wouldn’t ordinarily be able to seek treatment the opportunity to recover from addiction. Studies show that women who are pregnant or have children are far less likely than men to seek treatment for addiction. Drug rehab for moms also provides a safe, healthy environment for children and women that are victims of abuse.

Most importantly, moms need to begin to rebuild the relationships with their families that may have been damaged during addiction. In facilities which allow you to bring your children to treatment, you have ample time to do this, and your children will get the therapy they need at the same time. Even if a drug rehab for moms doesn’t have family housing or you decide not to bring your kids, they will have a family program. The kids will have the opportunity to heal, and you will all get the opportunity to heal as a family.

Trust
In drug rehab for moms, women generally feel more comfortable and are able to open up about things they may not say in front of men or women who do not have children. There is a trust created in drug rehab for moms. It is easier to be honest about the things that happened in the past, especially when this includes things like sexual trauma and physical abuse. To truly recover, we need to be able to be honest about our past. When we keep things inside, it blocks us off from healing and moving forward. Drug rehab for moms is a great place to feel safe about opening up.

Support
Many moms feel a great sense of guilt or shame about ending up in therapy or treatment. There is a stigma attached to women, and especially mothers, who drink and use drugs that are not experienced by most men. Many women do not even seek treatment because they feel alone and they feel like they will be too harshly judged. Drug rehab for moms is a great place to meet women who have the same problem as you. You feel less alone when you see how many mothers struggle with addiction. Drug rehab for moms is the perfect place to begin to build a strong support system and a lasting recovery.

Jul 20

Women’s Group Therapy

Last night, I went to a women’s Alcoholics Anonymous meeting for the first time in a long time. I go to a lot of meetings, but I rarely end up at women’s meetings. Sitting in that room, my heart filled up with joy. There was so much support and camaraderie in that small room! I felt relaxed, supported, and loved. I could not stop smiling.

That’s the thing with women’s only meetings and women’s only group therapy: there’s a sense of trust that you don’t get everywhere. In the program, I was often told “The men will pat your ass, but the women will save it.” At first, I didn’t want to believe it. I’d never gotten on well with women, and I didn’t trust them. I couldn’t see how women could help me any more than a man could. I had male friends! They were great support. Now that I am further on in my sobriety, I recognize that saying as nothing but pure, unadulterated truth. The women in the program reached out to me, were there for me, and showed me what being a strong, spiritual woman in recovery looks like. The ladies saved my life, and if you’re in recovery, they can save yours too.  

Women’s group therapy is so beneficial because the therapist can focus on topics that affect women! Most treatment centers are so male-dominated that women’s issues are often overlooked or discounted. Women’s issues include things like child-care, sexual trauma, and being victims of abuse. Men experience these things too, but on a much smaller scale. Women also can get trapped into the “victim role” where they blame others or circumstances for their drug or alcohol abuse. Women’s group therapy is more likely to address and try to change this tendency then a mixed gender therapy group.

In women’s group therapy, women generally feel more comfortable and are able to open up about things they may not say in front of men. There is a trust created in women’s group therapy. It is easier to be honest about the things that happened in the past, especially when this includes things like sexual trauma. To truly recover, we need to be able to be honest about our past. When we keep things inside, it blocks us off from healing and moving forward. Women’s group therapy is a great place to feel safe about opening up.

Many women feel a great sense of guilt or shame about ending up in therapy or treatment. There is a stigma attached to women who drink and use drugs that is not experienced by most men. Many women do not even seek treatment because they feel alone and they feel like they will be too harshly judged. Women’s group therapy is a great place to meet women who have the same problem as you. You feel less alone when you see how many women struggle with addiction. Women’s only therapy is the perfect place to begin to build a strong support system and a lasting recovery.

Jul 13

Treatment Services Provided at Women’s Treatment Centers

The treatment services provided at women’s treatment centers are specially designed for women. And that’s one of the things that make women’s treatment centers so special and unique to other drug and alcohol treatments.

Women and men are different so they need different treatment services.

Some of the treatment services provided at women’s treatment centers include:

  • Gender specific group meetings
  • Relapse prevention
  • Family reconciliation
  • Women’s issues
  • Stress and anger management
  • Building Self Esteem
  • Health Education
  • Parenting Skills

A lot of the treatment services provided at women’s treatment centers are meant to make women feel more comfortable with the recovery process. At some treatment centers that offer treatment for both men and women, some women may have trouble opening up about specific matters due to being uncomfortable.

Even though addiction affects us all the same women have certain experiences that may cause them to need a place like a women’s treatment center.

For instance in an addiction and alcoholism a lot of the times the relationships between men and women are unstable and even volatile.

Part of the treatment services provided at women’s treatment centers gives women the chance to get away from the opposite sex and totally focus on themselves and their relationship with other women. This gives women the chance to create strong bonds and feel completely safe while they are in drug treatment.

The most important treatment services provided at women’s treatment centers are, believe it or not, the same as those services provided at any other treatment center.

The main point of any treatment center whether it is for men or women is to help each individual to change their life for good. In order to do so, each treatment center must offer therapies, outlets, new coping strategies and knowledge so each person can have all the tools they need to stay sober for a lifetime.

This means that regardless of being a woman or man, each individual has to have the same tools in order to stay sober. The main difference between the treatment services provided at a women’s treatment center and one for men or one for men and women is; the feeling of comfort, safeness, closeness during the stay at the treatment center. Women’s treatment centers offer each female a place to go where they can be totally open and comfortable so they can get the best of those tools that all treatment centers have to offer.

This is different and for some women is priceless.

The treatment services provided at women’s treatment centers go above and beyond the therapies, groups, classes, and more. The treatment services provided at women’s treatment centers give each mother, daughter, sister, and niece the ability to find the comfort they need to truly recover and stay recovered.

Finding a connection with women in recovery is absolutely essential and women’s treatment centers really get each individual female off to the right start.

 

 

 

 

 

Jul 06

Benefits of a women’s only treatment center

Many addiction treatment program feature women’s only treatment centers because there are many benefits of a women’s only treatment center. Women are underrepresented in most treatment centers, because women have a harder time reaching out for help. In a mixed gender setting, women may not have the same kind of attention or focus on their gender-specific issues as they would at a women’s only treatment center.

Benefits of a women’s only treatment center include:

1. Focus on gender-specific issues: Sometimes women suffering from addiction have issues that are overlooked or discounted at a mixed gender treatment center, like child-care responsibilities and past trauma. One of the benefits of a women’s only treatment center is that these issues will be addressed.

Often, people suffering from the disease of addiction need to resolve past traumas before they can truly recover. Women especially are prone to playing the “victim role.” They use drugs and alcohol to forget about the pain of trauma, and they blame their addiction on things that happened to them or the way they are treated.  A women’s only treatment center understands that these traumas need to be resolved for a woman to become empowered to change her life and recover.

2. Support: Another one of the biggest benefits of a women’s only treatment center is that women can receive support from other women in recovery. Many women are plagued by feelings of guilt and shame when it comes to addiction. They think they are alone. At a women’s only treatment center, women are able to address these issues among other women who have the same problems. They are able to build a support network for when they get out of treatment and are facing the real world. Most importantly, they know they are not alone.

Additionally, many women find it easier to open up at a women’s only treatment center. Being among other women who understand them can be comforting. To truly recover from addiction, women must be willing to get honest and share their problems. This is a great benefit of women’s only treatment centers.

3. Nutrition and Health: For long lasting recovery, women must learn how to have a healthy life-style. At a women’s only treatment center, the program is geared towards the nutritional and fitness needs of women. Having healthy food options, yoga, massage, and women’s fitness experts on staff is one of the benefits of women’s only treatment centers.

4. Address underlying issues:  A women’s only treatment center is equipped to address some of the underlying causes of drug or alcohol addiction that are commonly experienced by women. These could include eating disorders, depression, anxiety, sexual abuse, or shopping addiction. While men also experience these issues, it is less common than with women. By addressing these co-occurring disorders, a women’s only treatment center can give you a higher likelihood of long-term recovery.

Studies have conclusively shown that women have a better chance of long-term recovery in women’s only treatment programs. This is perhaps the biggest benefit of women’s only treatment centers- a better opportunity for success!